One word which can trigger a lot of discussions, emotions, stories, experiences and still which never satisfies itself. That’s expectation. A lot of quotes which I find inevitably in Facebook or other motivational quotes pages say or ask me not to expect anything from anyone. Okay. I agree. In some cases, I can nod my head and go with it. But, here comes my question which I have always asked my close friends “Isn’t is natural that we expect from someone if we have done putting in our 100% into a task (conscious clean) and then they just take it for granted?” It is hard to accept it and then disappointment creeps in.
I don’t have many experiences to boast about, but should I say the truth, some experiences have indeed hurt me. I have found time and space just for this person and the trust that person has in me to do whatever it asks of me and in return, well, I have been in the forgotten zone. Not their fault, as they have to move on for they found a good friend in me, asked for help, got it and that’s it. I too have moved on, carefully picking myself up again, consoling that they still love me as their best friend, and blah blah blah.. But the next time, when they ask me for help, I can’t stop myself from asking, “Aren’t they being too strategic?” I still do the favour, but this time, I feel less hurt, or shall I say less attached to this person than before? I think the latter is more sound in my case.
I listened to a story of a dog this morning. The dog was wounded and a Vet found him, took him home and dressed up his wounds. When the wounds were healed, the dog picked itself up and left. But after some days, the Vet heard banging on his door and to his surprise he found the same dog, but the dog had brought with him another wounded dog!! The narrator of the story was explaining that, the dog had faith in the Vet and that’s the only reason he took another one with him. Also, the dog was sharing the good experience it had with others of its own kind. And that was his way of saying ‘Thank You!’
What does this tell me? Well, it tells me that helping others reveals our nature and who we are and it doesn’t have to be stopped for mere expectations from others. We are all given some kind of talents or gifts which we know about, so why not we use them than lock it up? The way I take it is that, when we are doing something, of course we expect gratitude in return, but there are people who don’t care even to do that. So what to do with them? Remember the saying “Some people come as lessons in life!” Also, the best way to deal with expectations and hurts is this “Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone else’s inability to see your worth!”
So, the old saying, “Don’t expect anything from anyone,” I don’t know how it works as I haven’t mastered it, but surely I can still expect, do good, and even if people don’t return my expectations, I am able to move on. Not by cursing the people, thinking “You will never change”; No, but I think gladly “God just give me more strength to do more good, so that the more I have, the more I can share!”
There is good in this world. There is bad in this world. It is our choice indeed to choose our weapon.Expect more; to do more! Good day!